Love. Bless. Curse.

No idea why i wanna post this, but seems like alot of my frenz around me have been running into relationship problem.. Some not to say relationship prob cause some of them haven even been in relationship yet.. uhmmm.. mayb love problem will be a more suitable one..

Many people thought that it is so good to be in a relationship.. Yea i agree on that to a certain extent. It all starts with a crush, where you suddenly realise that you cant take your eyes off this person, you are just attracted to him/her. You tried to get close to that person, tried your best to adjust your own hobbies with him/her, tried to make her laugh by using some lame jokes or whatsoever, tried your every best to make things happen. That is just a crush, but the feelings that is poking your heart is one of the strong ones. you just cant help thinking of them, thinking of what they are doing, thinking of who are them thinking of, and so on and so on..

If things go on well and you are attached, the starting months might be the sweetest time you ever had in your life. this period, known as 甜蜜期 in chinese, is when you experience things in your life.. example? your first time holding someone's hand, first kiss, first hug.. blah blah blah.. but that is not the point. what really makes a relationship a relationship is what follows.. the so called 'cool down period'? hahah.. don't actually know the name, but basically what happens is that there is no longer sparkle between you and your partner.. everything seems to have cooled down, and you start feeling that all the outings, meeting up with partner, dinners are more of a formality and responsibilites than of meeting some1 you would like to spend time with.. you start to feel that there is no need to see your partner so often, you want your own life, you start question your partner for interupting your plans, for doing sth you think is unessarily, and quarrels getting more from day to day.. You sit back and you start thinking that do you love him/her anymore, and......

well.. if this is what you think of how a relation should be, you are definitely wrong.. what more about it are your sacrifices, your care, and most importantly, your time. spending more time with gf/bf requires you to sacrifice more things, such as money, friendship, and possibly, studies. besides that, you might need a partner to support you emotionally and mentally, but what he/she is not able to do so? or mayb you are the one who still needs to go and support them when you need support the most? what if they get emo easily? will you get tired of them? will you scold him/her? will you make him or her cry?

guess i make the point clear here. Being in a relationship is not as easy as what we think. It is just not merely like those couple on the street who looked so lovely and sweet. What is behind the scene, no one will know. From a third party, love might look like a bless. But is it a bless or a curse, only you can tell. From my pov, it is not only whether the mr/mrs right has appeared or not, it is also whether you are ready for all these obstacles or not.

looks like i do not have both... what do you have?


p/s 1: this post is merely my opinion, any similarities will be purely coincidence.
p/s 2: I am not directing this post to any1.. it just apply in general. I apologize if any1 feel offended
p/s 3: yes i know what are you thinking... lame jokes work the best.. althought they are lame..
p/s 4: plz feel free to comment if i m wrong / left out sth important :)


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